Is 21st century love a fantasy or a reward for dedication, perseverance and hard work?
Television shows, movies and romance novels paint the experiences of love through fantasies seemingly available to anyone who desires them. However, are these sources of inspiration only spreading false hope to those mesmerized by the mere thought of becoming the lead character in their favorite fantasy? There are an abundance of hopeless romantics who live life with the expectation of realities that will never come to pass.
Does love at first sight really exist? Or should people focus more on love through relationship development?
Many men and women begin down the road of relationships pursuing the preconceived desires of love. Upon further reflection, usually when desperation begins, many recognize what they sought never really existed in modern day society. I recently had an opportunity to speak with a close friend of mine who referred to his current relationship as 'highly tolerable.' Unfortunately, this wasn't the first time I'd heard such a description of a relationship. Many people (especially men) are now approaching relationships with a perspective of tolerance rather than an expectation of bliss. Men are now opting to find women who serve as better life business partners, rather than those who fulfill the ever-elusive stereotype portrayed in movies, music videos and professional sports. Women are now opting for men who serve as emotional supporters, rather than the ever-elusive stereotype promoted via Essence, Ebony, Girlfriends, etc. Some people may argue that love fantasies come fewer in number than those that develop through hard work and dedication. What are your thoughts?
Is love a fulfillment of fantasy or a reward for hard work and dedication?
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What is love? Hmmm... maybe if people took more time to investigate what it really means to love someone, they would be better equipped to handle relationships. Love is highs and lows, pluses and minuses, good times and bad times. If you want to run everytime you don't get your way, and blame everything on your mate, get a dog. Better yet, don't get any organic organism, because almost everything that lives will disappoint at some point because they all fall short of the Lord's perfect well-being.
Yeah, guys want the Halle Berry, Jada Pinkett (Smith, lol), Angela Bassett (ok that could just be me, lol), and girls want the Morris Chestnuts, Shemar Moore's, and Martin Lawrence's (big LOL), but how what glitters isn't always gold. I don't want to tolerate my mate, I want to accept them for ho they are and realize that everything isn't going to be perfect. There will be fights, but there should also be making up. Why is this so hard for people to understand...that nothing is perfect? The whole thing frustrates me at times, but when you realize that the essence of love is at times...compromise...then I believe you are more than halfway there to having a successful relationship with someone who truly places value within your being, and truly wants to enjoy a successful relationship with someone who they feel will reciprocate.
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