Relationship Formula for Success

It is an undeniable truth that many of you desire to pursue relationships and experience the God-ordained covenant of marriage. In order to do so, there is a formula that embodies the totality of what relationships should be made up of:

God + Your Significant Other + You = The Success of Your Relationship

God
Fortunately, God is the same yesterday, today and forever more. As a result, you cannot and will not go wrong by putting your trust in Him. God serves as the anchor in your relationships if you allow Him to do so. As long as He remains your primary focus, you will be able to endure the highs and lows, ups and downs, good times and bad times of dealing with other human beings. Men and women have the ability to change…God does not! Without God, you will find yourself relying on your flesh to maneuver and operate through the everyday trials of relationships.

Your Significant Other
You have the opportunity to screen, interview and ultimately hire the person you allow into your life. Don’t be in a hurry, don’t ignore the red flags and don’t allow your emotions to assist in making life-changing decisions that you may regret later. Seek God’s guidance, take your time and enjoy the process of learning about your potential mate through the course of everyday life. Rushing to the altar is probably not the best answer! Allow your relationship to endure the various seasons of life so you have a better picture of what you are getting into long-term. Ask God to give you the spiritual discernment needed to make a wise decision.

You
Ultimately, you are the only person that you can control in all of your relationships. Take time to assess what you bring to the table in all of your relationships (workplace, family and male/female). You should set periodic assessment checkpoints to evaluate where you are in the following areas of life:
1) Spiritually – Where is your current relationship with God? Are you spending time with Him daily? Are you growing spiritually?
2) Emotionally – Have you purged the hurts of past experiences and relationships?
3) Physically – Are you taking care of yourself physically? When is the last time you had a physical? Do you exercise regularly?
4) Financially – Do you have your finances in order? Do you have a budget? Do you have a plan for eliminating your debt? Having a solid financial life doesn’t mean you need to make a lot of money. It means that you have control over the money you make.
5) Mentally – Are you continuing to develop yourself educationally? What was the last workshop, seminar or class you took to improve YOU?

Use the current season of your life to make yourself the best you can be. Don’t wait for Mr. or Mrs. Right to come into your life before you assess your personal areas for improvement. God is in the process of molding the person He would like to send you, but wants you to be prepared for who He sends. Life is short….live it up…be the best you can be!