Workplace topic of the week…
Why do so many people desire to be in relationships when they are unprepared for the commitment? Do you believe commitment is a lost art in our society?
The majority of today’s people desire to be in healthy, successful and prosperous relationships. However, many of them are unprepared for the journey that accompanies the relationship commitment. Commitment isn’t a magical switch that you can turn on and off, but commitment reflects a dedicated lifestyle that a person decides to live. Key areas to evaluate a person’s commitment level are as follows:
1) How committed are they to their family? – People who are uncommitted to those closest to them are a potential risk to you in a relationship. There are exceptions to this assessment, especially if they grew up in an unhealthy environment. However, if a person has never experienced a healthy relationship environment, then how can you expect for them to provide one for you?
2) How committed are they to their friends? – People who cannot keep friends are a potential danger to you in a relationship. There is a reason why they struggle in friendships, so please proceed with caution when developing relationships with them.
3) How committed are they to their job? – A job hopper shows an individual who has their personal interest first and their employers second. This is both a positive and negative characteristic. However, make sure they don’t treat their personal relationships like they do their jobs :)…hopping to the next best person who appears.
4) Do they show commitment to anything in their lives? – People who cannot demonstrate commitment to anything (school, ministry, coaching, social groups, etc.) in their lives should be avoided until they work out their personal situations. Don’t become the next casualty in their journey, but minister to them as a ‘friend’ showing love.
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Thanks KP! These questions are soo necessary.
I don't think I personally believe commitment is a lost art but I realize that in this day and time commitment levels have changed. To be honest it makes me sad to think that some people no longer value commitment as something of importance needed for relationships to survive and plain and simple worth cherishing. What comes with commitment is opportunity for growth (for yourself and others), developing stronger bonds, respect, and I guess the list could go on and on.
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It is interesting to me how over time we have transferred people into objects. What I mean is how the best way to talk about a person (physically or financially) is from the perspective of relating them to an object. One of the best ways to illustrate this is through musical lyrics. For example, musical lyrics have turned something that is a gift from God for marriage (intimacy between a man and a woman) into an object...a bed. In musical lyrics physical aspects of women have turned into some other animal or objects. Or men have turned into paychecks and cash advances. It is sad but when we take the human aspect out of the equation, it just becomes easier to be less commited to an object than a person.
We hear these things sometimes everyday during conversation or just by turning on the radio. We say we know how not to internalize those thought patterns but as symptoms of problems start manifesting in our lives and communities, I then begin to wonder how much are we really internalizing? It's far easier to walk away from someone when you devalue the human and place more value on the material objects they possess. As the object gets old and worn it gets easier to throw it away, discard it and/or look for a new object to replace it. Truly this can be applied to our jobs (when it's just a paycheck, how easy is it to leave?) and friendships too. Just a thought..
I do agree that looking at how committed someone is to family, friends, job and other activities are valuable ways to determine if someone's walk matches their talk. I truly enjoyed reading the article.
What a great topic KP! No, commitment is not a lost art. When I think of commitment the word Superglue comes to mind. This is how superglue works- Once two or more items (mate, families and friends)are glued together, separation becomes a painful, sticky mess. Paper tears and fabric frays if you divide the two pieces that have melded into one. Once retain fragments of the other. Think of two pieces of paper glued together-after they've been torn apart, each piece is ragged and weak. That's why superglue comes with a label advising the consumer to use extreme caution when handling it.
It takes a supernatural empowerment and a determined effort on the part of both parties to keep the bond of the relationship strong. SWOGOD
I believe that commitment has become a last thought.
Our type of society now is fast quick, easy to get, easy to leave, remix, upgrade, or when I want it I go and get it.
I see many of us treating our relationships that way, give me someone for right now, then I find another that's better.
Commitment is something you need to be ready for, but you need to prepare yourself spiritually, mentally and physcially. I don't believe in rushing into a committed relationship but I do take the time to evaluate what I need in a relationship and use that as a guide, but God will be my main decision maker, he knows me better than I do.
GB
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