Can You ‘Do It’ Standing Up?

It is absolutely amazing to me how many people strategically utilize sex to attract attention from those they have an interest in. Unlike many of my fellow brethren who proclaim the Gospel of Jesus Christ, I am not ashamed to acknowledge my past active sex life. As a matter of fact, I periodically reflect over my past personal escapades and recognize that chapter serves as a very relevant point of reference in my life. That’s why I am so passionate about the message I share with both men and women. I have had my share of sexual experiences and often chuckle at the various attempts women use to temporarily shift my focus. Why? Because I understand that physical fulfillment comes a dime a dozen. The question I will now pose in response to blatant and sly sexual advances is “Can you ‘do it’ standing up?”

Allow me to make this quick public service announcement to all of the men and women who feel compelled to utilize your body as a bargaining tool for establishing relationships. No matter how good you think your sex is…there is someone out there better than you! Now before you become offended, the previous sentence may not have been meant for you ;). Continue reading…

My Sisters
From the standpoint of pure sexual experiences, most men will admit that there is no sex better than NEW sex. That’s why it’s dangerous to become involved in relationships where flesh is the staple holding it together. Let an attractive woman with the bangin’ body cross the path of the ‘boyfriend’ who doesn’t truly care about YOU or value your friendship. The prospect of pursuing, entertaining and ultimately conquering the new challenge is much more exciting than dealing with you as the ‘old faithful.’ You could be doing EVERYTHING right, but will be left heartbroken if he doesn’t operate by the spirit and is unappreciative of the value you bring to the table. That’s why it’s important for you to ask him the question “Can you ‘do it’ standing up?” A man who can bring you spiritual covering and fulfillment standing up is worth much more than one who can only lustfully satisfy you lying down.

My Brothers
Now, I won’t allow my sisters off the hook because there are a number of women who are also driven by the flesh. Their actions and pursuit of sexual variety similar to the reality television stars also leads to heartbroken men. I think we often overlook the women cheaters, which is unfortunate because that component plays a part in the downfall of some male-female relationships. If you allow the wrong focus to stimulate a woman’s interest, you may find yourself in a situation where your quest for a serious relationship is camouflaged through buddy status or an informal ‘maintenance man’ contract. Before getting involved with the next woman be sure to ask “Can you ‘do it’ standing up?” A woman who brings you peace while standing up is worth much more than one who can only satisfy you lying down.

Can You ‘Do It’ Standing Up?
What do I mean by ‘doing it’ standing up? The reality is there are men and women in almost every setting of life capable of bringing you happiness lying down. Each of us who has tasted the forbidden fruit should have personal testimonies to support this. How many times must you go through the same test where you figure out the person you are dating is ill-equipped to satisfy you standing up only after having given yourself to him/her physically? Your quest should now center on following Christ and connecting with the man/woman who brings you happiness through non-physical means. Stop allowing yourself to remain in emotional bondage to relationships that hinge on 45 minutes – 1 hour (on average) sessions of physical intimacy with a boyfriend/girlfriend. There are 24 hours in a day and 45 minutes/1 hour pales significantly in comparison to the other 16 hours (24 hours/day – 8 hours of sleep) of involvement with someone who doesn’t make you happy. Don’t fail the same test again!

Next time ask if he/she can ‘do it’ standing up and here are some examples of what I mean:
1. Can he/she demonstrate a commitment to follow Christ? ( Luke 9:23)
2. Can he/she show the love of Christ in their interaction with others? (Matthew 25:35-40)
3. Can he/she offer godly counsel to you as a friend? (Psalm 1:1)
4. Can he/she show evidence of spiritual fruit? (Galatians 5:22)
5. Can he/she forgive those from their past? (Matthew 18:21-35)
6. Can he/she show support for the things that are important to you?
7. Can he/she show the ability to resolve conflict?
8. Can he/she produce a vision for the future?
9. Can he/she communicate effectively?
10. Can he/she show continual desire to improve in every area of life (spiritual, financial, professional, physical, emotional and mental, etc.)?

‘Doing it’ standing up has far greater impact to the purpose of life. Two people coming together with purpose is much more powerful than 1.5. Don’t allow temporary release to blind your ability to make good, sound, spiritual decisions. If you keep doing the same thing, you’ll continue getting the same results!

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