Stop De-valuing Your ‘Jimmy’!!

A couple of months ago I had the opportunity to catch-up with an old friend of mine who is now a professor at Georgetown University. Our discussion picked-up as if we’ve had regular conversation over the past ten years, which had not been the case. Our conversation focused on my ministry dealing with relationships. He posed an interesting question that caused me to stop and reflect for moment. He asked, “Why is a woman’s body considered the prize?” I actually found the question quite odd, but at the same time definitely relevant. Many of us (men) have been taught that a woman’s body is the prize, dessert or night cap to winning her over. However, during the process of trying to prescribe a woman’s body as the reward, we fail to teach women how to adequately guard their hearts, which often leads to the release of their bodies. That’s a whole different blog discussion.

Even more puzzling is this. During the process of elevating a woman’s societal prized possession (her body) as the goal, we are neglecting to teach young boys and young men to treasure their bodies as prizes too. Media and entertainment offer ongoing messages to our younger generation that cause them to become curious about their sexuality. At 12 and 13 years of age, young boys are exploring outlets to learn more about sex and in the process no one is saying anything. Fathers will slap high five with their son upon learning about their son’s first sexual encounter. I wonder if we would do the same thing to our daughters who are often the victims of these encounters? Beginning at very young ages, young boys begin putting miles on their bodies which starts the gradual decrease in their long-term value. We need to start teaching young men to ‘stop de-valuing their jimmy!’

Men are programmed at very early ages that our body’s value is based on quantity of women we sleep with and we begin operating in such a manner to substantiate this theory. It is no longer uncommon for men to have lost their virginity by the age of 13. Should lost virginities really be celebrated at this age? We need to start teaching men to ‘stop de-valuing their jimmy!’

It is no coincidence that many marriages fail due to infidelity and I personally believe this can be traced back to imbalanced teachings on the value of sex and our bodies. If the family, church, community and school systems would ever come together in unity to reinforce this message, I believe it will have a positive impact in the turn around of our society. We need to start teaching men to ‘stop de-valuing their jimmy!’

It works sort of like a used car. A used automobile is often purchased at a price based on year, make and model. However, the wild card is often the number of miles the vehicle currently has on it…the higher the mileage, the lower the value. Similarly, women join with men in marriage (spiritual purchase). Each husband has a certain year (age), make (ethnicity), model (size, shape, etc.), but the mileage varies based on experience. The more mileage a man puts on his ‘jimmy’, the lower in value it can become. The greater the mileage put on his ‘jimmy’, the more difficult it is for him to understand its true value outside of the ‘seek and conquer’ mentality.

I don’t know your thoughts, but we really need to start teaching men to ‘stop de-valuing their jimmy!’

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