Out of Sync

Isn’t it amazing how life can be moving along smoothly, without any complications, and in an instant you find yourself ‘out of sync’? It doesn’t take anything significant to interrupt the free-flowing harmony of your life, but can be something very simple. It can be a phone call you receive that throws your entire day off schedule because you decide to answer instead of ignore. It can be a check you’ve written to a business or creditor who holds it too long and because you forgot…subsequent checks you write turn up with insufficient funds. It can be a matter of saying yes instead of no and the decision gives way to the birth of a child you weren’t planning to conceive. It’s not a matter of if, but more a matter of when you’ll find yourself ‘out of sync’ when it comes to life.

Not only can your general life periodically find itself ‘out of sync’, but your relationships and marriages can also enter into periods of being ‘out of sync.’ You used to communicate with one another without a hitch, but all of a sudden things change. The things you once saw eye-to-eye on no longer exist. The common goals and desires you once shared have now faded into obscurity. Your ability to connect on the very basics of life has now become a strenuous challenge. What do you do?

Now I’ve heard several of my married friends talk about ‘out of sync’ periods in their marriages and the discipline required to work through these periods. Strong marriages are able to navigate through these cyclical periods. However, there are many who are unable to weather the storms of being ‘out of sync’. I think this is sometimes referred to as ‘growing apart’ in instances of faded marital bliss.

When you are married, you have a greater level of accountability for working through these ‘out of sync’ periods. However, should you feel the same level of responsibility for dealing with these periods during a dating relationship? What happens when the person you are with no longer walks in harmony with you?

I believe we can all learn a valuable lesson through our relationship with God through Christ. Truth be told, we don’t always walk in alignment and harmony with Him, but we choose to hang in there because of His character and what He represents in our lives. Similarly, this should be a requirement for the relationships we choose to maintain and cultivate in our personal lives. Is the person we’re connected to a representative of love and character Christ offers to our lives? If so, hang in there because all relationships will have their ups and downs, and it’s irresponsible to flee at the hint of a temporary disconnect. If not, examine whether a change needs to be made in the status of your relationship.

KP

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