It’s amazing how in the midst of our pity party God has the sovereign ability to send just what we need to heal us, comfort us and love us the way a significant other is designed to love. However, upon transitioning from a hurtful situation we tend to build walls that do not allow anyone to gain access to our inner world. Now I’m not saying to get involved with someone immediately following a serious relationship. However, I am saying that we should not wallow in our personal pity party for months upon months. There is a healthy process of grieving relationships that includes the following:
1) Acknowledge the end of your relationship;
2) Take personal accountability for your contributions to the failure of the relationship;
3) Pray to God for peace and closure;
4) Pray to God for forgiveness towards your former boyfriend/girlfriend;
5) Ask God to allow you to move on with your life.
The aforementioned process of grieving your past relationships will set you free from your ongoing pity party. As you see…none of the steps include you blaming the other person for what they have done to you and how they caused the relationship to fail. Blaming others allows you to find a scapegoat and camouflages the issues that lie within yourself, but I digress…
If God sends you someone who desires to treat you well, who wants to spend time with you, who takes a sincere interest in your life and well-being, give them an opportunity to grow in your life. Do not be afraid of allowing individuals into your life as friends. Platonic relationships typically provide awesome foundations for more serious relationships. One piece of advice for you…if God sends someone into your life, then let him /her love you or he/she will leave you. DON’T MISS YOUR WINDOW OF OPPORTUNITY!
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I continue to fight the fight of faith so I return. In fact I will not be long and I will get straight to the point I read something that I really enjoyed and I just thought it would be good to share as it applies to this topic. It is from a book I read by TD Jakes. The title of the devotional was:
“Keep Your Appointment”
It seems every time I get ready for a major appointment, something comes up to try to slow me down. People will call and just want to chit chat. I will be pacing the floor trying to find a way to get off the phone, but the person will just go on and on.
Problems always seem to come up. The car keys won’t be anywhere in sight. The gas gauge will read empty. Traffic will be heavy. An accident will block the highway. It seems everything possible will arise to slow me down.
When God has appointed seed for you to birth, there maybe obstacles you have to hurdle. There may be delays you have to endure. There may be things you have to refuse.
When God appoints a task for you, there’s no time for idle talk. There’s no time for gossip. In order for you to receive what God has for you:
You are going to have to hang up on some folk…
You are going to have to hang up on some situations…
You are going to have to outlast or outmaneuver some circumstances…
You are going to have to say “no” to some activities that will pull you away from your appointment or delay you from keeping it.
You will have no time for foolishness, pity parties, or side shows.
If you are going to hold onto your miracle, your dream, the fulfillment of God’s plan for your life, then you are going to have to keep moving, keep moving, keep moving (Did I mention, Keep Moving?) Always keep moving toward what God has for you.
You may have to crawl to get there, but keep crawling.
You may have to cry a lot of tears along the way, but keep walking.
You may get knocked down, but GET UP and KEEP GOING.
Don’t let anything KEEP you from keeping your appointment!
The thing that God has for you must be done. That’s the way God feels about his plan for you. Write yourself a note, “I have an appointment. It must be kept.”….
Just thought it was relevant and I would share...
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