Here is a link to an article that discusses the plight many women discuss/debate today...
http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/23053553/
Why it's okay to settle at pre-defined points in your life is the main focus of this article. Please read and provide your feedback :)
KP
Tuesday, February 12, 2008
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My whole entire life I have been taught to NEVER settle, always strive for the best...for your hearts desires...pray and talk with God tell him what you want and pray for His will to be done. It is scary for me to even now fathom that it is okay to just settle.
Though the author sounds CRAZY to a certain degree I can understand where she is coming from. As many of my friends have now crossed the threshold of THIRTY, it has become more and more a reality that they are toying with. It is a conversation that we jokingly have but there is some truth to every joke.
Every woman dreams of a knight in shining armor coming to whisk her away to a house with a fence and have children but we have all woken up to the reality that it just has not happened yet…and when it doesn't your mind starts to wander back to those relationships that might have been "The ONE." Sometimes when you reminisce you have to force yourself NOT to pick up the phone and call.
Even in those times we have to trust in GOD and know that he knows are heart's desires and that he will provide.
I believe that as women it is hard to do what we know is right, trust in GOD and NOT compromise ourselves, but we must do what is right. We must continue to prepare ourselves for the one that God will eventually send to us and make sure to keep our eyes and heart open, so that when Mr. Right does show up on the scene we will be ready and able to accept that blessing.
My first marriage, I settled. I was 25 with a child from a previous relationship and had just had a child with the man I would later marry. Did I love him? Yes. But should I have married him? No. We weren't right for each other, but I now had two children to care for and the thought of doing that alone frightened me. So I settled.
Now I'm divorced and about to turn 35 this year. Knowing what I know now, would I settle again? I don't believe I would call it settling now. I think now I would say that I've grown up and I know what I can compromise on and what I can not. I believe I know more about myself and what it takes to make me happy. My list of things that I used to pray for in a mate have changed greatly in the last 10 years. The fact that I now pray for guidance from God has changed. I don't think anyone settles, I just think that as you get older, the things that used to matter really don't amount to a hill of beans when you look at the total package. What really matters is does this person have a love for God, do you love each other and each others children, do you respect and treat each other right, and are you equally yoked? If you can answer yes to those questions, why would you call that settling.
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