'Catch 22' with Women

I have recently been reminded why so many guys have trouble sharing information openly with members of the opposite sex. Although communication is very key to friendships and relationships overall, the difference between how men and women are able to understand and reach conclusions are so very different.

I now see why some of my brethren opt to keep certain things to themselves in hopes of things fading away in the sunset. Unfortunately, things usually float to the surface when it comes to male/female involvement. Contrary to my natural selfishness, I’ve been sticking to the approach of confronting not-so-fun conversations in an attempt to keep boundaries established and individual/joint purposes clear.

It’s funny though. It’s a ‘catch 22’ to share specific thoughts throughout the course of a ‘get to know you’ friendship because they lead to optimistic thoughts and anticipations that may or may not be attained. However, it’s also a ‘catch 22’ to NOT share thoughts with the other person during the ‘get to know you’ friendship because it leads to a sense of ambiguity and uncertainty.

What’s a man to do in these situations?
- Look beyond the temporary discomfort and focus on the big picture.
- Don’t allow a woman’s emotions to persuade you to keep things internalized.
- Recognize that God has a plan beyond our control and we DO NOT have authority to control situations.
- Remember honesty is the best practice in all situations.

At the end of the day, we (men) need to continue being honest despite the potential for further questioning, elaboration and whatever else is required for situational closure. It’s absolutely essential that everyone remain on the same page and no one’s time is carelessly wasted. We owe it to women and ourselves to 'man up' and not be afraid to deal with tough situations. Doing so builds character and respect from those whose paths we cross.

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