Non-Virtual Reality by Paul Wilson, Jr

One of the most amazing phenomenons in the history of human connectivity is happening right before our eyes. Check this out. Did you realize that it took radio 38 years to reach 50 million people? It took TV only 13 years to reach that number. For the Internet it was only 4. It took Facebook just two years to reach 50 million people!

While technology is making global connectivity easier, it seems to be making interpersonal connectivity harder, partly because so many people are consumed by what’s on their screens. Youth leadership guru, Tim Elmore, calls this generation of teens “Screenagers”, because their appetite and acquisition of information, communication, and entertainment is driven by their affinity for screens, i.e. cell phones, computers, TV, video games.

This “screenager” mentality is not just limited to teens. Why does it seem like millions of adults are more willing to have virtual online relationships - often with complete strangers - versus spending quality time building legitimate relationships with people they should be close to?

The more I delve into social networking technology, namely Facebook, Twitter, and LinkedIn, the more I realize that people often substitute virtual interactions for real relationships. It’s very interesting that social networks use the term “friend” to describe connections, but the depth of most online relationships is questionable in relation to what friendship really means.

While these tools are great for sharing information with friends and family, reconnecting with former associates, and connecting with new people, along with many other personal and business uses, they should not be used as a replacement for building genuine, authentic relationships with key individuals.

Key relationships are critical to your long-term success. Relationships that I consider to be “key” include: spouse, parents, siblings, close friends, business partners and associates. No matter how great and user friendly technology is, no combination of hardware, software, and screens can replace these significant face-to-face relationships.

The reality is that the greatest achievements you will have in life will be determined by your ability to effectively manage key relationships. Likewise, the most difficult problems you will have in life will be greatly influenced by your inability to manage certain key relationships.

Developing strong relationships requires taking emotional risks and letting people into my space, not just MySpace. You will never be able to experience the depth of joy of a flourishing relationship if you never take an emotional risk of engaging with someone who could potentially cause you deep pain. If you’re unwilling to take relational risks, you are short-circuiting your long-term potential.

I encourage you to assess your current “key” relationships. Are you doing all you can to cause these relationships to flourish or are you spending inordinate amounts of time online? Are you investing adequate time to ensure relational success or are you trading off that time for the pursuit of virtual “friendships”?

Where you focus your time is where you will get results. Make sure you’re investing in real-ationships, not just virtual ones.

Dream B.I.G.,
Paul Wilson, Jr.
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Divine Redesign by Paul Wilson, Jr.

So many people today are struggling to live a fulfilling, meaningful life. Their struggles are often tied to their inability to see and think beyond their current circumstances. They resign themselves to being “boxed-in”, feeling they have limited options and opportunities to change their lives. They let other people’s opinions and expectations keep them emotionally secluded in a place of fear, anxiety, guilt, malaise, irritation, and displeasure. Afraid to take risks, they stay stuck inside constraints that keep them from flourishing.

It’s time to break out of the box of mediocrity, complacency and dissatisfaction! To shift from flailing to flourishing, you need a divine redesign of your life. Redesigning your life starts with getting new blueprints from the Master Designer.

Here are ten areas where His design expertise can upgrade your life:
1. Seek God’s wisdom and purpose for your life. He has some incredible plans for you (Proverbs, 3:4, Jeremiah 29:11)!
2. Dream BIG! Start dreaming about what could be and stop despairing about what’s not (1 Corinthians 2:8-9).
3. Exercise your imagination more. Thinking ‘outside the box’ gives you the opportunity to redefine the box (Proverbs 8:12).
4. Don’t let others’ opinions and expectations become constraints for your life. God’s opinion of you is the one that matters the most (Romans 8:31).
5. Raise your expectations. Just because bad things happen in life doesn’t mean you have to walk around in fear (Psalm 112:7). Live courageously!
6. Focus on solving problems rather than promoting them. Most of your challenges aren’t going to disappear overnight, so adjust the way you respond to them (Psalm 49:3, Romans 12:2).
7. Invest yourself into others. You will reap what you sow into other people. However, don’t expect your harvest to come directly from those into whom you have sown (Galatians 6:7-8).
8. Do something different. One definition of insanity is doing the same thing continuously, but expecting different results. It’s time to crush complacency in your life (Proverbs 14:12).
9. Make drastic changes if necessary. Break out of internal (emotional) and external (job, relationship, habits) boxes that are unhealthy or destructive (Matthew 9:17).

Key question: If you were standing on the outside of your life looking in, what would you tell yourself to start doing, stop doing, or do differently?

Seize the day, embrace a divine redesign, and start living the life you were meant to live!

Dream B.I.G.,
Paul Wilson, Jr.
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The ‘Other’ Side of Ministry

So often people see pastors, ministers and preachers on Sunday mornings and become captivated by the attention we often attract. Unfortunately, it is because of this attention and associated ‘power’ that draws many men and women into coveting the title/position of pastor or minister. Unfortunately, it’s easy to get caught up on the church entourages, spotlights, attention and power, but many don’t fully understand the ‘other’ side and ‘true calling’ of ministry.

In the background of genuine, spirit-led pastors and ministers are prayer, counseling, education and administration. On the other side of the glitz and glamour of Sunday morning sermons or special event messages, is a life of ongoing accountability, speaking life into the seemingly hopeless and crisis management. This is why you often hear the phrase “many are called, but few are chosen.” This phrase was brought back to the forefront of my mind on this past Monday upon learning within a period of 3 hours about the death of one of our ministry members, receiving word about a friend’s brother attempting suicide and hearing that another friend/co-laborer and his wife lost their unborn baby. Ministry is seen as glamorous by those who only know the public side through Sunday morning services. However, there are the plentiful not-so-glamorous responsibilities that accompany the life of true minister.

Don’t get caught-up on the appearance of how things look externally because the true test of ministry is longevity and consistency. Those who covet the position will ultimately have the authenticity of their ‘calling’ tested over a period of time. Not everyone has the gift or anointing to speak before thousands on a regular basis and even the best speakers are connected to the plan God has for their ministry. You can select several small church preachers on a given Sunday morning and wonder why their church is so small in number because of their speaking gift. You can also select several large church preachers on a given Sunday morning and wonder why their church membership is so large because they are not-so-gifted speakers. TD Jakes summed it up the best when he said, “If God has planned for you to be a pastor or leader over thousands, then He will accomplish this despite the perception of others. If God has planned for you to be a pastor or leader over fifty people, then His will shall be accomplished no matter what others around you might say.” This simply means that you will only go as far as God’s plan will take you. It’s not based on your speaking ability, your knowledge of the Bible (although it helps), but is based on the anointing God has over your life.

Being a minister is a 24-hour per day job requiring selflessness, patience and love. Behind every powerful sermon you hear on Sunday morning or during the week is a life filled with comforting those who have lost a loved one, attending funerals, helping meet the needs of the homeless or those struggling financially, hearing from God on how to lead His people and encouraging those who may be going through a storm. Consider wisely and listen attentively if you think God is directing your path towards ministry. You can only fake ministry for so long because the 'other' side of ministry and Christ will expose you for who you really are!

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How Much is Too Much? by Paul Wilson, Jr.

This is a breaking news flash! You need to pay attention very closely. There is a rampant disease running around in our society, affecting the young and old. It sneaks up on you when you least expect it. It causes blindness, anxiety, greed, emotional instability, poor decision making and robs people of their common sense.

The name of this dangerous disease is “discontentus attitudinus,” which translated into English means “attitude of discontentment.” This epidemic has been around for centuries, but it seems to be getting worse with every generation. Our society’s collective drive for more fame, money, technology, food, cars, clothes, toys and other stuff seems to be increasingly insatiable.

How much is too much money? How much is too much fame? How much is too much attention? How much is too much success? How much is too much stuff?

The most significant symptoms of discontentment don’t discriminate. They cross over every racial, religious, political and socio-economic segment of our society. They include:
 Ignoring or discounting the good things happening in your life caused by the drive for always wanting “more”
 Neglecting/rejecting relationships with people that you have lost interest in for someone “better”
 Feeling that you’re somehow inadequate, because of what you don’t have
 Basing decisions on frivolous desires instead of real needs
 Competing with others to maintain a certain status or image
 Financial shackles caused by purchases you can’t afford obtained with credit you can’t afford

The recent death (and life) of Michael Jackson caused me to think about how as a society we glorify excess. His extreme success, which led to his extreme fame also created the environment that led to extreme pressures to maintain a persona that was “worthy” of his extreme fame. It’s amazing that even after seeing the lamentable consequences associated with his level of fame, how many people still clamor for it.

“True godliness with contentment is itself great wealth.” – 1 Timothy 6:6

One reason people are so challenged with discontentment is that they are more focused on getting rather than giving. If more people were as excited about giving as they are about getting, discontentment would be a moot issue.

Fortunately if you have been a victim of “discontentus attitudinus” there is hope for you. The key to your cure is understanding that the value of your living is tied directly to the value of your giving. You can increase the value of your life by investing your time, talents, and treasures into others.

You can’t buy contentment – you have to grow into it.

People who give regularly and enthusiastically usually do so from a heart of gratitude. They sincerely value the things they already have - including their relationships, experiences, and possessions - and desire to share them with others. My dad used to always tell my brothers and sisters that we needed to have an “attitude of gratitude.” Gratitude is genuinely appreciating and getting the most use out of what you already have.

The truth is gratitude and generosity will take you far with God and people. What you will receive in return is far more than what can be measured in this life.

Dream B.I.G.,
Paul Wilson, Jr.

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The 'Wait' of Life

I have been recently reflecting on the many things currently taking place (work, ministry, school, personal ventures) in my life, and the significant ‘weight’ they have me under. Fortunately, the ‘weight’ that life currently has me under is not really of concern because I know God will not put more on me than I can bear (1 Corinthians 10:13). Once we realize God is a burden and load-bearer the temporary rigors and challenges will be viewed as minute in the grand scheme of life.

However, through my recent period of reflection, I have noticed the one life aspect I AM continually wrestling with…the ‘wait’ of life. Understanding the big picture vision and plan God has for my life has always been very important to me. In order to align with what God has planned for us as His children, it sometimes comes at the cost of being placed in a period of ‘wait’ before receiving His clearance to proceed forward or receiving an answer.

Its funny how many preachers and ‘church talking’ Christians are quick to throw out clichés on ‘waiting on the Lord’, etc., but we must recognize it’s much easier to speak on someone else’s situation. The outside words of encouragement do serve a purpose when spoken in love, but when we start dealing with the ‘wait’ of life, God is always the best source to plug into.

In speaking with a friend the other day, we concluded that the ‘wait’ of life is often something many of us don’t focus on until we need something from God. This usually generates an expectancy and impatience towards God when He’s already aware of the situation. Many of us need to go through a continuing education program that teaches us the art of ‘wait’ according to the Christian life. The ‘wait’ of life is directly correlated to the faith we have in God so remain encouraged when it seems as if things aren’t going your way. God is bigger than our situations and needs and has things under control despite our inability to understand. If you need a reference guide to waiting, please review Hebrews chapter 11 for testimonies.

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The "Right" Person...

I read this on the Oprah Winfrey website and found it to be somewhat interesting. This statement was made by Rabbi Shmuley Boteach.

Today's Shmuleyism

"Better to marry the right person in the wrong place than the wrong person in the right place. And, better to marry the right person at the wrong time than the wrong person at the right time."

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'Catch 22' with Women

I have recently been reminded why so many guys have trouble sharing information openly with members of the opposite sex. Although communication is very key to friendships and relationships overall, the difference between how men and women are able to understand and reach conclusions are so very different.

I now see why some of my brethren opt to keep certain things to themselves in hopes of things fading away in the sunset. Unfortunately, things usually float to the surface when it comes to male/female involvement. Contrary to my natural selfishness, I’ve been sticking to the approach of confronting not-so-fun conversations in an attempt to keep boundaries established and individual/joint purposes clear.

It’s funny though. It’s a ‘catch 22’ to share specific thoughts throughout the course of a ‘get to know you’ friendship because they lead to optimistic thoughts and anticipations that may or may not be attained. However, it’s also a ‘catch 22’ to NOT share thoughts with the other person during the ‘get to know you’ friendship because it leads to a sense of ambiguity and uncertainty.

What’s a man to do in these situations?
- Look beyond the temporary discomfort and focus on the big picture.
- Don’t allow a woman’s emotions to persuade you to keep things internalized.
- Recognize that God has a plan beyond our control and we DO NOT have authority to control situations.
- Remember honesty is the best practice in all situations.

At the end of the day, we (men) need to continue being honest despite the potential for further questioning, elaboration and whatever else is required for situational closure. It’s absolutely essential that everyone remain on the same page and no one’s time is carelessly wasted. We owe it to women and ourselves to 'man up' and not be afraid to deal with tough situations. Doing so builds character and respect from those whose paths we cross.

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Is HE the ONE According to God? Part 2

Here is part 2 of ‘Is HE the ONE According to God?’


6. Remember that a man’s family reveals the cloth from which he’s cut. Take note and decide whether you want your future with the man in your life to look like his present family situation.

7. Check out the patterns of his life. Do you see a repeated cycles of drama in his personal kingdom? Broken relationships? Problems in making commitments—including job market? Is a problem always someone else’s fault? Does he embrace responsibility or shirk it? Does he keep promises? Is he a man of good reputation?

Remember all garments look wonderful hanging in the store, but with wear, some begin to unravel. Give yourself time and space to check out the man in your life. Time will always reveal whether or not he is made of the right stuff.

8. Does this man have a vision for his life? Is he running with that vision? Remember, God decided Adam needed help once Adam got busy DOING his assignment. As we saw Adam, a man doesn’t need help until he is busy doing what he was created and called to do. Is the man in your life guided by sense of destiny and purpose, or does he just allow life to happen around him? A man who is not certain of his mission can be a most miserable person – and you’ll be miserable too if you know where YOU want to go in life.

A man who has vision is not intimidated by a woman whose mission statement is clear.

9. Complementary. Do your talents and gifts complement his? Do his gifts, complement yours? What about your temperaments? Do you see the two of you as an effective team capable of bringing blessings to the lives of those around you?

This is why knowing your purpose is so important. Make sure your hearts beat for mutual causes. When I go shopping I always consider the fabric, the fit and what I already have in my closet. Will my next purchase be a complementary addition to what I already have? If I find that I am going to have to buy shoes and matching accessories to go with a new outfit, I leave it right on the rack. It is too expensive a proposition. If the man you meet makes you feel that you need to completely reinvent yourself, something is wrong.

10. Does he have a healthy love and acceptance of himself? Make sure the man in your life has taken time to heal from past relationships and has made peace with himself. How he cares for himself is how he will care for you. A man’s relationship with God is crucial here. His love for himself will only be as strong as his love for God. This is not something your can impart. You cannot be his savior or teacher. That is out of spiritual order. In his rightful place as your personal priest, he should be leading you to a richer relationship with Christ.

If he is causing you to compromise your faith and destabilize your walk, if he is leading you into sexual sin or causing you to be distracted from your commitment to God, the relationship is too expensive. Offending the lover of your soul, who promises you eternal love, is too high a fare to pay for a ride that has a limited run. If you and your man can’t soar in the Spirit, when the force of your love for another is tested by the pull or gravity of the world, your union will not be able to survive.

-Author Unknown

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Is HE the ONE According to God? Part 1

The Right One in God’s Eyes

First we must allow our Heavenly Father to do the picking. And second, the decision for a mate must be made on a spiritual and intellectual basis before it’s made on an emotional one.

“What about love? Shouldn’t that be the third? You ask. No, and I’ll tell you why." “The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it? (Jeremiah 17:9)."

The heart is willful and is driven by its own agenda. It does not consider things rationally and intelligently it just loves to love! Therefore you have to point it in the right direction: “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the well spring of life” (Proverbs 4:23)!

Whenever you meet a man, you need to get clearance from God, check out his attributes, and then allow your heart to engage.

Dating exists not for mating; it exists for collecting data. I believe that the biblical design would be friendship, courtship and then marriage.

Friendship is two people walking together in agreement and accountability, learning and growing together.

Courtship follows the mutual agreement to commit to one another exclusively – it is the decisive turning toward the agreed-upon goal of the marriage altar. It is a period of laying a foundation and preparing your life together after marriage.

But dating? Well, if you do date, use the time wisely to gather these facts.

1. Check out the fabric. Is the person mate material? Does this man have an intimate relationship with the Father through Jesus Christ? Does he care what God thinks about his behavior? Is he accountable to God as well as another co-laborer in the faith? Accountability is an important factor. It is imperative to maintaining a committed relationship. Is your potential spouse a member of the same family – the family of God?

You need to have common interests and values and agree on the essentials of living day to day. You have a similar spiritual walk. You eat the same spiritual diet. You enjoy a lot of similar things. You have like interests, like goals in life, like opinions on basic life issues.

You have had like experiences in your background. Though there is some truth to the idiom that opposites attract, like-minded folks fare better together.

Furthermore, does he want to get married? If you want to be married and your dreamboat isn’t interested, don’t waste your time.

Remember, women fall in love and get married. Men decide to get married and then look for a wife. Note the difference in order. So if a guy says he’s not looking for anything serious, take his words seriously. If he’s not going in your direction, get off the bus and wait for the right one.

2. Does this man want you? Is he pursuing you? The man who is right for you WILL pursue you, and God’s hand in the relationship will be clear. No guessing, no fleeces, no dead ends.

Scripture says: “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord” (Proverbs 18:22).

Men will do whatever they have to do to get what they truly want. The man in your life should recognize you as the pearl of great price in his life and be willing to do whatever he must in order to gain your hand. If he is passive about gaining your affections, take it as a sign that he is not interested

3. The man in your life should not desire to move into your house, only into your heart. A man who prepares for your future has made his intentions clear. A man who is husband material has the means to take care of a wife. He is a responsible human being who understands he needs to have something to offer. In short, a man should have the means to be a suitable lover for you.

4. Check out his buddies. Everyone knows birds of a feather flock together, yes most women fail to see the connection between a man and his friends. A man’s pals tell you a lot about the person that you haven’t seen yet. They reveal things about the guy’s character that might be hidden when he is on good behavior. Everyone knows how to put his best foot forward. Don’t stay focused on the foot, check out the rest of the body!

5. Check out his relationship with his mother. How does he treat her? This is your preview of how he will treat you. There are lots of men who, because of a negative relationship with their mothers, really don’t like women, yet say they do. Unresolved issues between mother and son continue between husband and wife.

-Author Unknown

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KP's Mental Holding Pattern

I want to take this time to announce my return to one of my favorite hobbies and loves...bloggin'. Over the past two weeks God has placed me in a mental holding pattern that served as a time of both personal reflection and examination. It was revealed to me that in recent months, I've been extremely busy, but not purposeful in my actions and behaviors. Fortunately, God has a special way of pointing things out to us when we are obedient and open to receive his subtle messages of life.

I'm extremely excited that my holding pattern has been released and I have been cleared to start back sharing the messages and words God has placed within me.

The point of this story is to always take time to make sure God is the center and focus of your life. When you remain attached to Him, you'll be able to accomplish things that will ultimately fail without His presence. Amen!

John 15:5 - "I am the vine, you are the branches. He who abides in Me, and I in him, bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing."

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Independence Day by Paul Wilson, Jr

As everyone is busy getting ready to “celebrate” 4th of July weekend, I reflect back on the founding fathers of this country. We often are reminded of what they did and how they did it. What I am going to focus on is how they thought. Before anybody began to plan or execute the American Revolution, it first had to be a thought in someone’s mind. Understanding how they thought is critical to extracting relevant principles from what they did.

We need a revolution in our communities today. Just like the British government was oppressing the colonists, many people today are oppressed by poverty, drugs, homelessness, teen pregnancy, and many other forms of subjugation. In many cases people have allowed themselves to be enslaved to their pasts (mistakes, regrets), hopelessness, others’ expectations of them, or their current environment. Nevertheless, before people can be physically or emotionally free from these circumstances, they first have to be mentally free.

Freedom begins with a thought. The founding fathers began to aspire to and dream about freedom long before they ever attained it. That allowed them to have the initiative and motivation to plan the Revolution. One begins to change their environment or situation in their minds long before the change is actually realized. Mahatma Gandhi stated it very well, “The moment the slave resolves that he will no longer be a slave, his fetters fall. Freedom and slavery are mental states.” The moment that people resolve that they will no longer be victims of their circumstances, they can get on the path to changing their lives.

The ability to think/see beyond one’s current circumstances is an incredible asset. You who have made positive transitions out of oppressive conditions now have the responsibility to help others gain their freedom. Often, you will have to help those who are “visionally impaired” to see beyond their current environment into a future that is better and brighter.

I challenge you to start a revolution in your community. Don’t conform to “group think”, where everyone is stuck in the same negative mental ruts. Visualize a greater future for your community, write a plan, and put a deadline to it. Change the conversations by encouraging solutions rather than just complaining about problems. Engage other people in your plan who are also willing to challenge the status quo. Challenge yourself to do something different everyday that moves you closer to fulfilling your vision. Don’t let anything stop you before you reach your goal.

Don’t be a victim or a slave to your circumstances – free your mind! It’s time for you achieve your destiny and positively impact those around you.

Dream B.I.G.,
Paul Wilson

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For The Ones I've Loved, Liked and Tolerated...This is for you!

This article was written by my friend Kimberly Bradford and I know each of you will be blessed by it. Check it out!


I was reminded today that when I write, the message may not be for me but for someone else who may read it. So whoever this is for, I hope this helps you in some humorous kind of way. With that being said, this is dedicated to all the ones I’ve loved, liked and tolerated!

Facebook has been an interesting ride I reluctantly hopped on a few months ago and I must say it keeps getting more interesting by the day. My friends list has grown by leaps and bounds and I’m kind of digging the fact that I actually know a great portion of those on my list personally.

I had an interesting conversation a couple of weeks ago with a good friend. She had gone through my friends list and noticed a couple of guys I’ve dated in the past and was surprised to see that I accepted their friend request. The conversation started off quite interesting with the comment “I see you and *insert name* are friends on FB” I replied “Yeah it’s nothing major I either sent or accepted the request, what’s the big deal?” She went on and on about how she couldn’t believe after all that went down between *insert name* and I, she’s surprised I’d even want to allow them to communicate with me. I became quiet on the phone for a second and I simply replied “Why wouldn’t I?” By the time the conversation ended I was laughing at the fact that she was the one that was upset over me being able to let bygones be bygones and move on.

When it was all said and done, all she could say was “well you’re a good one.” You know what? She’s right, I am a good one. See I’ve realized that grudges are accessories that do not compliment my wardrobe! I mean, what do I look like being mad because a relationship didn’t work out? You mean to tell me I’m supposed to go around mean mugging because someone I used to date is either dating, engaged, or married to someone else? Child please, I EXPECT them to be with someone else! I dated them so that means they were educated, handsome, fun to be around and for the most part, we got along well enough to date for a period of time. So yes, I expect them to see other people and move on because rest assured, I haven’t been treading water either.

It is true the men I’ve dated over the years have resembled a good hand of spades: 5 with 2 possible (LOL) and like any good deck of cards I’ve had a couple of jokers thrown in the mix too. I haven’t always been this laid back discussing the past but thank God for maturity and wisdom because I tell you what, I can laugh about a lot of the situations I’ve been in and I have a good heaping portion of “run if you ever see this nature again” to help deter me from making the same bad decisions.

To the Ones I’ve Loved: Thank you. You’ve taught me how to really enjoy the moment, how to care for someone unconditionally and allowed me to be myself without fear of being transparent. We didn’t make it as a team but that doesn’t take anything away from our ability to play. It just means someone else’s playbook will be a better fit. Live Well, Play Fair and Pray Hard.

To the Ones I’ve Liked: Appreciate it. You’ve taught me that there’s no shame in attempting something more, that there isn’t anything wrong with expressing your feelings and that no matter what, we can still be friends. Did we miss out on something? Possibly, but we had fun despite the outcome. See you around.

To the Ones I’ve Tolerated: Kick Rocks. Yeah I said it… Beat it kid. I mean really you can stop with the “I’ve always had feelings for you” or the infamous “If I wasn’t with *insert name* I’d be with you.” For real you can’t expect me to settle for crumbs when the brother over there is ready to set out a six course meal for me! The truth is, if you wanted to be with me, you’d be with me. No, I’m not pining over you and no, I’m not waiting on you to leave her for me. I’m way better than that so in the infamous words of Palin “thanks but no thanks.” Peace, two fingers Chief.

See how easy that was? LOL…. Talk to you later Fam!

Kimberly Bradford

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Devotional - July 1, 2009

Pride goes before destruction, And a haughty spirit before a fall. (Proverbs 16:18 *NKJV)

It is written we are to humble ourselves, and not let our pride or ego get in the way when dealing with others. For; Whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted. (Matthew 23:12) For; "God resists the proud, But gives grace to the humble." (James 4:6)

So never let your pride or ego convince you that you are more righteous than another. Alter all, we are all God's Children and He loves each of us equally. Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in your brother's way. (Romans 14:13)

Also remember the words of our Savior Jesus Christ, for He said of the end time; Many who are first will be last, and many who are last will be first. Therefore, Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and He will lift you up. For the Lord takes delight in His people; He crowns the humble with salvation. (Matthew 19:30) (James 4:10) (Psalms 149:4)

Have a Wonderful Day and may God's Blessings be with You as well. Amen.

All My Love & Prayers,
Pastor Allen

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