Unequally Yoked - Are you connected to the wrong people?

I can say with assurance that most everyone within the sound of my voice is connected to some folks that are detrimental to your growth and development. To be unequally yoked means to be connected or tied to someone who does not have the same beliefs, desires and/or goals as you. Many misinterpret this idea as only being relevant to marriage relationships. However, this idea of being unequally yoked applies to marriage relationships, business partnership, as well as friendships. Why is it important to avoid being unequally yoked to others in your life?

1. It Provides a False Positive- Meaning…that you find comfort in associations that seem good externally, but are destructive to you internally.
- You connect to people that make you feel, but are not good for you
- You connect to those who talk a good game, but never seem to progress towards their verbal promises

2. It Promotes Fatigue in Your Life-Meaning…that you are tired from carrying too many people in your life.
- We are designed to operate with sails in our lives…not anchors
- People who are unequally yoked will cause you emotional fatigue (no wonder many of you are constantly tired…you are being worn out from carrying those around you)

3. It Prohibits You From Reaching Your Potential
- There is no coincidence that birds of a feather flock together
- Are you the most successful person in your circle? If so, then you need to identify some more people to associate with. Wouldn’t it be a tragedy for you to never reach your potential because of the company you keep
- Is your professional life stagnant? Find some folks who are trying to better themselves.
- Are your relationships failing? Could it be because you are settling and not connected to a person who is healthy for you?

When you allow yourself to be unequally yoked to those who don’t add value in your life, you receive false positives, you experience fatigue and your potential is stunted. Why allow yourself to go through this when you have the ability to change and control your associations?

What's up with the 'K' in Kafe?

Many have asked why I sometimes spell words using a letter 'k' in place of a 'c'. The long and short of it all is that I'm a member of Kappa Alpha Psi and we use creative liberty in being different :). That means we spell certain special words with a 'k' and there is no pure rhyme or reason for doing so. I hope it doesn't bother you, but definitely hope it makes me stand out in your mind.

Does Flirting Help Relationships?

I came across an interesting article related to relationships and flirting. I'd love to get your thoughts on this particular article. I get the feeling that only those with low self-esteem or those seeking continuous validation can benefit from this. Those who are in a relationship and secure in who they are, will find this sort of behavior to be childlike and take offense to the silly games.

Here is the link http://health.yahoo.com/experts/menlovesex/75787/why-flirting-can-help-your-relationship/

Relationship Tip of the Week - 12/24/2007

Are your expectations too high? Disappointment occurs when your reality doesn’t meet your expectations. Have you set your bar of expectation so high that no one will ever be able to reach it? It is okay to have desires, but make sure that you are personally willing and able to live up to the criteria you have put in place. It is unacceptable to request that your mate be God-fearing, financially savvy and compassionate, if you ARE NOT striving towards those same goals.