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Wednesday, April 15, 2009

“Give It To Him”


. . . casting all your care upon Him, because He cares about you.—1 Peter 5:7

I’m sure you know like me, becoming a Christian does not make your problems go away, in fact in some cases it sets you up to have more! But what it does do is give you an Advocate to whom you can take every concern. Casting our cares is a choice. It means consciously handing over our anxieties to Christ and allowing Him to carry the weight of our problems.

At times this is the most difficult part of trusting God! Because truth be told we really don't like turning over the responsibility for our problems. We have been taught that self-reliance is good and praiseworthy. Some of us may even enjoy worrying! Yet if we are to be freed from the burden of our concerns, we must choose to cast them into the strong hands of our Father.

In the text Peter does not distinguish between little cares and big cares, all he says is, “Give It To Him”. In like manner God does not differentiate between problems we should handle on our own and God-sized ones. He asks us to turn them ALL over to Him. I believe one of our greatest errors is that we assume we can deal with something ourselves, only to discover that we really can't. But beloved God sees you as His frail child, burdened with a load that surpasses your strength. He stands prepared to take your load and to carry it for you. The question is, Will you let Him?

I don’t know what care you may be carrying today, but the Word for ME that I wanted to share with YOU is, Give It To Him.

Peace and Blessings,

Pastor J.

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Tuesday, April 14, 2009

Red Flags in Dating

Here is an interesting article I pulled from oprah.com's website about dating...



Is today's society relationship challenged? Rabbi Shmuley says there are two kinds of commitment phobia: the active, in which the person is aware of the issue, and the passive. "The latter reveals itself by dating the wrong person in the first place … thereby sabotaging the relationship before it even begins," he says.

Rabbi Shmuley highlights red flags he says to look out for in a relationship:

-He flirts overtly with women—even when you're with him—and says it's harmless.
-He is someone who wants to be taken care of. He's looking for a mommy, or she's looking for a sugar daddy!
-He tends to shut down and won't communicate.
-She is jealous of time you spend with your friends or limits your access to your friends.
-He has a terrible temper. He yells, doesn't apologize and blames you for it. He says he would stop if you wouldn't provoke him.

In order to avoid dealing with these red-flag situations, look for the following values in your significant other, he says:

-Are you attracted to him?
-Does she have a good heart?
-Does he have the capacity to put other people before himself and empathize with another person's plight?
-Does she share your core values? If not, does she at least harbor other fundamental core convictions?
-Does he understand that a relationship is the ability for two people to cater the needs of each other (even if they do not understand each other)?

Today's Shmuleyism
"Many people today are passive commitment-phobic. They date the wrong person at the outset, thereby sabotaging the relationship before it even begins. When it comes to choosing a spouse, attraction and compatibility are, of course, vital. But nothing is more important than good character."

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Monday, April 13, 2009

In the Mirror



Today is a cloudy day for those of us who currently reside in the Atlanta, GA area. However, it’s an awesome day to take a step towards the ‘new you’ that you desire so much. Everyday we open our eyes is another day that we should live with and on purpose. I know many of you have things that you desire in your heart to accomplish and I want to simply encourage you to ‘go for it’.

Change starts with the man or woman you see everyday in the mirror. If you desire change, then you must take action. Otherwise, you will have to keep looking at yourself in the mirror and explain why you never fully lived the life you truly desired to live.

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Thursday, April 9, 2009

Are You the Uncola? by Paul Wilson, Jr.



Do you remember the 7Up commercials back in the 80s with the tall Caribbean dude with the all white suite, wide brimmed hat, deep voice, and James Earl Jones laugh check out this commercial on YouTube: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AHMKyWgkChk&NR=1? Was that really 20 years ago? Wow!

Any way, 7Up’s marketing slogan back then was “The Uncola.” 7Up wanted to position itself as different from the typical, common, average colas, such as Coke, Pepsi, and others. They also wanted to demonstrate they had more natural ingredients and no caffeine unlike the colas and other sodas.

As I look across the landscape of our society, it’s often rare to see someone pursuing the title of the “uncola”. Rather than creating something new, intriguing, and distinct, it seems that most people are trying to copy everyone else’s formula for success. Nearly everywhere you look is another 5, 8, or 20-step book, program, or formula to achieve society’s standard of success - which is fleeting at best.

One of the key problems with this is that just because a particular process or formula worked for one person, doesn’t mean the same process or formula will work for everyone else. One person’s life circumstances are totally different than another’s. One person’s unexpected opportunities – which often are matters of circumstance rather than intention – are totally different than another’s.

Something else that is negligently overlooked is that one person’s character composition - similar to 7Up’s use of more natural ingredients than the colas - is totally different than another’s. In actuality, character is often the determining factor between success and failure, no matter what the circumstances are.

Just like 7Up, I challenge you to be an “uncola.” That means being distinctly original in how you live, relate, work, play, and worship. In this society, that means words like apathy, mediocrity, status quo, passivity, fear, lethargy, inferior, subpar, and inadequate should be foreign concepts to you.

I don’t even want you to think about trying to be “above average.” Above average is not always good, because that doesn’t necessarily mean that you are different. It means you’re still a cola, but you just taste a little better or have a little less caffeine - kind of like a “diet” cola.

Some of the people that have had the greatest impact on our society were not just above average - they were distinctly different. They had labels such as rogue, rebel, revolutionist, outsider, maverick, and the like. In essence they were “uncolas.” Although you can glean best practices and principles from their lives and experiences, there is no magic formula they could give you that would result in your life having the same exact results as theirs.

Your purpose and life path are as distinct as your fingerprint. Therefore, you need to learn how to embrace words like: irregular, abnormal, atypical, uncommon, unusual, and peculiar. If you are living in a way that truly inspires, invigorates, and ignites others with effective originality and creativity, you can claim these words as compliments not insults.

Now don’t become a freak of nature just for the sake of pursuing one of these labels. Instead, I’m encouraging you to be so brilliant at who you are and what you do that it would almost seem like you were from a different planet, because of the standard of excellence that you exhibit (hint: John 17:14).

I encourage you to explore, innovate, pioneer, and blaze new trails that others will want to follow. If you live like this, just like 7Up claimed to be back in the 80s, you would be absolutely refreshing!

Dream B.I.G.,
Paul Wilson, Jr.

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Tuesday, April 7, 2009

A Fight Against Loneliness



It happened again! This past weekend I had the pleasure of attending the wedding of one of my line brothers in Washington, DC. As has become the habit, I had to respond via RSVP that I would be attending all of the wedding festivities by myself. Of course I could have picked someone to travel with me and share in the overall experience. However, I have come to realize that special moments like weddings are not to be shared with those who you are ‘casually’ dating.

It is amazing the various tricks the enemy tries to play on your mind when you are surrounded by groups of people who are married, engaged or seriously involved. For one of the few times, I found myself in another fight with loneliness. Loneliness is one of those emotions that seeks to weigh you down, causes you to re-evaluate your self-worth and tries to hijack you from focusing on the purpose God has for your life. I sat back for a brief moment, while the rest of the group was out on the town, focusing and reiterating the things I desire for my life. I desire to have a God-centered, God-focused marriage. I desire to have a family that will serve as witnesses to Lord’s goodness. I desire to have a special person in my life who I can share my successes, failures and thoughts with. I desire to have someone whose shoulder I can cry on when the temporary issues of life become overwhelming. (sigh)

It is a blessing to have a relationship with the Lord. He is so in tune with His children that He knows what we think before we actually think it. He provided me with a sense of peace during my temporary fight with loneliness. I was assured that He understands the desires of my heart. The one question that I left my time of reflection with was simple…”Am I willing to share my desired experiences with God during this season of my life?”

Many people allow loneliness to move them into the unauthorized action of taking matters into their own hands. Unfortunately, it is not you alone who can bring fulfillment to the things you desire in life…only a relationship with God can. Ask the many people who have taken matters into their own hands who now find themselves absolutely miserable. Don’t make the mistake of jumping the gun before you are released into the next season of your life. In order to win the fight against loneliness you must not allow the temporary emotions in life to move you to unauthorized actions. Continue focusing on your relationship with God. Continue focusing on your relationship with yourself. Continue being a blessing to others. God hears your cry…just allow Him to work out the final details within you so you can be successfully equipped for the next season of your life.

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Friday, April 3, 2009

I Dare You to Thrive! by Paul Wilson, Jr.


I dare you. I double dare you. I triple dog dare you!

I dare you to look beyond your problems to see your potential.
I dare you to look beyond your obstacles to see your opportunities.
I dare you to look beyond your frustrations to see your future.
I dare you to look beyond your drama to see your dreams.

I dare you to look beyond your guilt to see your giftedness.
I dare you to look beyond your bruises to see your blessings.
I dare you to look beyond your burdens to see your brilliance.
I dare you to look beyond your losses to see His love.

I dare you to go where no one has gone before!
I dare you to grow when others are groaning!
I dare you to conquer when others are cowering!
I dare you to comfort when others are complicit!

I dare you to be positive when others are pessimistic!
I dare you to be fearless when others are failing!
I dare you to be faithful when others are fading!
I dare you to love the unlovely!

I DARE you to THRIVE!

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Wednesday, April 1, 2009

Real Men Take Risks!


One thing I am learning as I travel this journey called life is being a Christian doesn’t offer me an excuse for not being a man. As I study and read God’s Word, and even watch what’s going on in our society, we desperately need men who are willing to get back to the basics of what manhood is. One element of being a man involves taking risks.

As God’s mighty creation, He expects us to take charge and fulfill our roles as head of the household. Unfortunately, there are many of us who are willing to take risks professionally, financially and socially, but aren’t willing to do so relationally. One of the detriments of having the number of women to men odds in our favor is our tendency to lay back and wait until women throw themselves at our feet for attention. Like many of my brothers, I embraced this royal treatment and soon recognized that I didn’t have to do much except sit back and benefit. I realized during that phase (notice I said ‘that phase’) of my life I picked up some habits that were detrimental to God-centered relationship development.

As long as I continued to live according to my own selfish agenda, I found myself never having to take risks or make challenging relationship decisions. Why settle down? Why commit? Why explain myself to those I was dating? Those were questions I often pondered, but never felt a responsibility to address. I left many decisions suspended in mid-air because I found myself wanting to remain comfortable and keep those around me happy. As long as I remained focused on pleasing people instead of God, I found myself out of alignment with His purpose for my life.

To My Brothers…

Being a real man means making tough choices and taking selfless risks. Once you realize the call God has on your life, being His chosen leader for the family household requires you to take risks and make difficult decisions. It’s only when you realize the responsibility God has bestowed upon you that you can stop playing games with the women in your life and focus on building the best possible relationship with the ONE woman He blesses you with.

The woman you marry will look to you to lead, sacrifice, offer a selfless perspective and offer a big picture view according to what’s best for the entire family. The role of being a man, leader and head of the household, involves an ongoing process of taking risks and making difficult decisions. A real man is willing to approach a woman and risk rejection. A real man is willing to make tough professional decisions. A real man is willing to make decisions that may result in failure. A real man is willing to make decisions that may not be popular with friends or family. Are you willing to take risks that will allow God to mature you into the man He desires for you to be?

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